domestic violence - He beats me

Hi …Campus Heat, my name is Tolani. So Happy You guys have a section like this!

There’s this guy I’ve been dating for about 2 years. I’m in my Final year. graduating soon.

He’s a great guy, treats me well, gives me basically everything I want whenever I ask him.

But! one problem I have with him is .. he beats me. I don’t understand why..even him ..he claims something always comes over him.

In the past 8 months, he has beaten me 3 times over issues that are almost irrelevant. Last time he left his office and came to my hostel minutes past 6pm on a Tuesday and beat me up like really bad that the security men had to Interfere..what did I do?.. I forgot to tell him I was going out the night before and a friend of his saw me at the club.

Its sad cos every time he’s always apologizing and promising to stop, my parents know him but they don’t know about the beating part.

We were out on a date last night & he proposed to me ..I was confused. I had to return the ring n tell him i have to think about it.

My friends have been discouraging me claiming he would never change ..he hasn’t hit me in like 2 months now but I’m scared.

What do you think I Should do ? pls

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  1. @Sandiiee_G January 31, 2013 at 9:28 am

    marry him and he will kill you.

  2. Anita February 6, 2013 at 11:40 am

    leave while you still can! he needs help with his anger. he needs to work on himself before entering into a serious commitment such as marriage. It’s very important you don’t rush into anything. He needs to work on himself and his anger issues first, before entering into any form of commitment. Like sandiiee said, it could end very dangerously.

  3. Pst o March 1, 2013 at 1:49 pm

    Well a man dat beats is an animal and wl never change his animalistic behavior even after marriage,he never loves u and respect as well ,once dia is no respect n value for relationship ,a marriage cannot work.let him go,he doesn’t deserve u,u are more precious than dat,call his bluff u will sure get a man of like mind n not an animal to marry.just be patient.if not you will be dead one day after marriage.

  4. lawlar March 4, 2013 at 8:40 am

    Babe, you need to be seriously addressed, I don’t know what to say really, you have your fault and he is got a bad temper. You don’t go clubbing without a man u claim you date knowing about it. Go tell your parents how he flogs you and let them tell you what to do. Make sure you tell them everything and not the “I forgot to tell him I was going out” cos u intentionally didn’t tell him. A broken relationship is better than a broke marriage.

  5. khris March 6, 2013 at 1:36 am

    Hmmmm ruuuunnnnnn,he will kill u ooo

  6. Emily March 28, 2013 at 9:12 am

    fucking break up with him!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! he’s not your husband and he is beating you. is he mad. even some husbands dont beat their wives. dont be deceived that he loves you. if he does hw will never lay a finger on you

  7. César Abraham (@abrahamcesar) July 28, 2013 at 2:47 am

    This might be called the Riahanna Complex… probably there was always violence in terms of emotions, because it seems that you have being summoned since two years, but now that the violence is phisical, you feel even more linked to him… you both need to request help and addictions treatment.


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